Nowadays, most people start with personal goals and wonder why they cannot achieve those.
It is hard to build a house if your foundation is mud.
You have to start with what you need out of life to make rules or personal standards for yourself; then, you know what boundaries should be enforced against others.
If you have set up the above system, you protect yourself against your tendencies to do internal and external self-sabotage, which we all do.
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What is the difference between a need and a desire?
We are scarred during our childhood; hence when we become adults, we look for what we did get emotionally, physically, mentally, and sometimes spirituality. These are our needs rooted in our pain and trauma.
A desire is based on sensory pleasure, which can be easily fulfilled. If you want to eat delicious cookies, you go to the supermarket.
Let's address your needs.